Let's talk about you and me? How about not. I would, however, like to discuss sex in general and its effect on our population. With this, I have formulated some very basic sex rules.
For starters, sex is a touchy issue to most people and, although we parade sex around in our daily lives, most people feel uncomfortable discussing their personal sex lives...which isn't surprising because statistically, most people on Earth are older adults who's libidos have fallen like the Twin Towers or adolescents and young adults, where turmoil, sexual exploration, and the ability to even have an adult relationship is still in the making. Naturally, this leaves a majority of the world population either not having sex or having sex intermittently, which some may say is even unhealthier than constant sex or none at all.
This culminates to my roommate and his girl having sex tonight. You may ask yourselves, how did he know they had sex and why the example? I came back from the library around 2200 and heard music in my roommate's room while walking in the door. Clue #1) Roommate's gf hates having sex thinking I can hear, so he only puts on room music when they're shagging. But the weird part is...no pleasure and too much thinking.
Maybe its me, but my idea of sex is emotions boiling and the two of us getting passionate and enjoying every second of the touching, teasing, and sliding until climax. from start to finish, sex is unrestrained and uncontainable...at least in my mind. so when i hear a bunch of music, a bed squeaking, a male breathing heavily, and a woman who's talking at a normal tone of voice...i tend to think the sex isnt as great as i imagine it should be.
Rule #1: Make sure (s)he enjoys it (don't be selfish)
meanwhile, amidst trying a new position, because we all need to change things up from time to time, she asks how it feels (she requested the change) and he says, "it feels good, but i don't know how i feel about that feeling good". My god, if there were any more emotions flying around during that sex session, I'd be knocked out until next January.
Rule #2: Sex should be raw and passionate!
Why are you thinking at all during sex? Sex should be a moment where you say, "I love this person so much that their physical beauty is driving me crazy! I want to, I have to, I neeeeed to fuck them," for lack of better words.I've heard of talking dirty or communicating while having sex, but one should never have a conversation in their normal voice during sex EVER! If you want to talk to them, do it AFTER your libido nose-dives...trust me, you have about 20 hours out of the day to do that.
Rule #3: Do what she likes.
So many times, guys just shoot off while leaving their women stranded here on Earth. I'm not saying I'm the longest lasting man alive nor that I'm the best sex on Earth, but if there's one thing I've learned, its not how good you are, but how good you are to her. You see, logically these two are equivalent. Since sexuality is all in the mind, if you're climaxing continuously and your girl is like the only dead flower within the Forbidden Garden, not only are you not paying attention, you're also not pleasing her, which you would know if you'd have paid attention in the first place. A woman can orgasm in two minutes if she likes, or not for months at a time if she so chooses. She also only needs 3 inches to reach her g-spot, so unless you're significantly below average (5.5-7.5 inches erect is a rough average) than its not about what you have, but getting her there.
Rule #4: Get her there beyond any costs!!!
We all may have those nights where we just want to release some tension and get off, not necessarily have a workout required from most guys while performing sex. The problem comes when you analyze male and female differences. Male's sexuality is primed up until around 30, while woman's sexuality doesn't start the races until her late 20's, early 30's. This means that unless you're a young man dating an older woman or an old guy going younger, you probably won't be at your sexual prime at the same time as your lady...which is fine, but this fact must be taken into account.
That said, she needs much more caressing, exploring, and everything from physical to emotional stimulation. Unlike men, she can't think "Here's my man naked...alright, ready for sex", although I'd be remissed if I didn't state how amazing that would be. Thus, since she needs more of everything than you do, make sure she gets it all. Foreplay is key and so is arousal. For those whose women aren't in the mood or wanting any from you for whatever reason, you're in the wrong place; my only answer to that is life happens, suck it up til shes 30.
I hope these simple rules help. I attempt to utilize all these and more, but if there's nothing else taken from this, read that you must be a sharing lover. She's not sexually involved to talk or share stories. She can do that any other day of the week and time of day. When she wants you in bed, take her. Show her you can please her on every level. Then next time I might hear moaning, screaming, and enjoyable sounds coming from the noise-making, bed squeaking darkness next to me.
Alas, I wouldn't be down-talking my roommates inadequate sexual experiences nor giving these rules if the sex heard didn't remind me so much of the sex I've been missing these past few weeks and will continue to miss these next few months. Whats more is that by this point, I dont even want to give my sweetheart a good dicking. I just want to be with and make soft, slow, passionate love to her. If only...
-Piyadasi
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