Let's talk about you and me? How about not. I would, however, like to discuss sex in general and its effect on our population. With this, I have formulated some very basic sex rules.
For starters, sex is a touchy issue to most people and, although we parade sex around in our daily lives, most people feel uncomfortable discussing their personal sex lives...which isn't surprising because statistically, most people on Earth are older adults who's libidos have fallen like the Twin Towers or adolescents and young adults, where turmoil, sexual exploration, and the ability to even have an adult relationship is still in the making. Naturally, this leaves a majority of the world population either not having sex or having sex intermittently, which some may say is even unhealthier than constant sex or none at all.
This culminates to my roommate and his girl having sex tonight. You may ask yourselves, how did he know they had sex and why the example? I came back from the library around 2200 and heard music in my roommate's room while walking in the door. Clue #1) Roommate's gf hates having sex thinking I can hear, so he only puts on room music when they're shagging. But the weird part is...no pleasure and too much thinking.
Maybe its me, but my idea of sex is emotions boiling and the two of us getting passionate and enjoying every second of the touching, teasing, and sliding until climax. from start to finish, sex is unrestrained and uncontainable...at least in my mind. so when i hear a bunch of music, a bed squeaking, a male breathing heavily, and a woman who's talking at a normal tone of voice...i tend to think the sex isnt as great as i imagine it should be.
Rule #1: Make sure (s)he enjoys it (don't be selfish)
meanwhile, amidst trying a new position, because we all need to change things up from time to time, she asks how it feels (she requested the change) and he says, "it feels good, but i don't know how i feel about that feeling good". My god, if there were any more emotions flying around during that sex session, I'd be knocked out until next January.
Rule #2: Sex should be raw and passionate!
Why are you thinking at all during sex? Sex should be a moment where you say, "I love this person so much that their physical beauty is driving me crazy! I want to, I have to, I neeeeed to fuck them," for lack of better words.I've heard of talking dirty or communicating while having sex, but one should never have a conversation in their normal voice during sex EVER! If you want to talk to them, do it AFTER your libido nose-dives...trust me, you have about 20 hours out of the day to do that.
Rule #3: Do what she likes.
So many times, guys just shoot off while leaving their women stranded here on Earth. I'm not saying I'm the longest lasting man alive nor that I'm the best sex on Earth, but if there's one thing I've learned, its not how good you are, but how good you are to her. You see, logically these two are equivalent. Since sexuality is all in the mind, if you're climaxing continuously and your girl is like the only dead flower within the Forbidden Garden, not only are you not paying attention, you're also not pleasing her, which you would know if you'd have paid attention in the first place. A woman can orgasm in two minutes if she likes, or not for months at a time if she so chooses. She also only needs 3 inches to reach her g-spot, so unless you're significantly below average (5.5-7.5 inches erect is a rough average) than its not about what you have, but getting her there.
Rule #4: Get her there beyond any costs!!!
We all may have those nights where we just want to release some tension and get off, not necessarily have a workout required from most guys while performing sex. The problem comes when you analyze male and female differences. Male's sexuality is primed up until around 30, while woman's sexuality doesn't start the races until her late 20's, early 30's. This means that unless you're a young man dating an older woman or an old guy going younger, you probably won't be at your sexual prime at the same time as your lady...which is fine, but this fact must be taken into account.
That said, she needs much more caressing, exploring, and everything from physical to emotional stimulation. Unlike men, she can't think "Here's my man naked...alright, ready for sex", although I'd be remissed if I didn't state how amazing that would be. Thus, since she needs more of everything than you do, make sure she gets it all. Foreplay is key and so is arousal. For those whose women aren't in the mood or wanting any from you for whatever reason, you're in the wrong place; my only answer to that is life happens, suck it up til shes 30.
I hope these simple rules help. I attempt to utilize all these and more, but if there's nothing else taken from this, read that you must be a sharing lover. She's not sexually involved to talk or share stories. She can do that any other day of the week and time of day. When she wants you in bed, take her. Show her you can please her on every level. Then next time I might hear moaning, screaming, and enjoyable sounds coming from the noise-making, bed squeaking darkness next to me.
Alas, I wouldn't be down-talking my roommates inadequate sexual experiences nor giving these rules if the sex heard didn't remind me so much of the sex I've been missing these past few weeks and will continue to miss these next few months. Whats more is that by this point, I dont even want to give my sweetheart a good dicking. I just want to be with and make soft, slow, passionate love to her. If only...
-Piyadasi
Sunday, January 30, 2011
Saturday, January 22, 2011
Les Interactions Sociales
-Venga a nuestro departamento. damos una fiesta! Sé que está con Camila pero viene con ela.
-No. quiero venir pero ella no hace.
-Es un puta
-If you think that...I am.
-A que paso? Camila le ha encambiando! Hace ni lo defiendes!
-hahaha...I am a good boy
-ahh, que lindo
This interaction took place on the 22nd of January 2011, and it is a shining example of how people consistently refuse to do what they want en lieu of another's wishes. At first glance one may ask why in the world would someone sacrifice personal desire for someone else? The common eye may see this interaction and conclude that love is in the air, and a common concept dictates that we do things we don't necessarily want as a core definition of love. I reject these claims with the idea that all personal sacrifices are taken in context for the long-term future anticipatory rewards.
I myself have been a perp in this regard. I can honestly say that I have been in those shoes, skipping large social interactions in exchange for taking care of my sick love or just resting and having a quiet night and she's done the same. We'd like to believe for love of the significant other is why our behavior changes, but its much more easily explained in terms of evolution. If I am with my significant other, I will exchange my short term pleasure because I know that in the future, those social interactions will a) still be there b) not be as rewarding as the possible punishment. Logically, anyone would skip a temporary desire for the knowledge that doing so will create a bond much stronger for the couple's future, aid in sexual advancement, etc. The reasons are limitless, but the endgame remains the same. Our behavior isn't characteristic of altruism, but rather our anticipated rewards.
With that said, the question arises of the necessity of said action and the benefits and costs. I raise these questions because I see it every day in the world, including my own life. When I acquired my new girlfriend, I disappeared off the social network. The proof is that last night was my first hosting a get together at my place since last year. Do I regret it? Absolutely not, because not only do I adore spending time with my love, the bonds created by our togetherness are much stronger than the bonds I could make with a majority of those other friends.
Statistically speaking, five years after we graduate from university, we're likely to be in contact with 3-5 friends from our college years. In 15 years, we will remain in contact with anywhere between 1-3 old college friends. With that said, I feel it is much more important to bide your time and cherish the time spent with the ones you love, because they will ultimately be the ones you promenade into the future with. To those who deem this to be a sheltered and anti-social mindset, it could not be further from the truth. We learn about our world through others as well as ourselves, but at the risk of sounding hypocritical, we, as social creatures must interact. However, we should not condemn those with significant others who choose the wiser long-term rewards instead of conforming to the groups desire to come together and cause a ruckus, for most gatherings in the Northern hemisphere aren't for social interaction, but rather to dull the senses and wits, a shame-faced task to behold or be a part of...said by a piece of the puzzle who has joined, hosted, condoned, and exasperated these problems in the past. But no more...
-No. quiero venir pero ella no hace.
-Es un puta
-If you think that...I am.
-A que paso? Camila le ha encambiando! Hace ni lo defiendes!
-hahaha...I am a good boy
-ahh, que lindo
This interaction took place on the 22nd of January 2011, and it is a shining example of how people consistently refuse to do what they want en lieu of another's wishes. At first glance one may ask why in the world would someone sacrifice personal desire for someone else? The common eye may see this interaction and conclude that love is in the air, and a common concept dictates that we do things we don't necessarily want as a core definition of love. I reject these claims with the idea that all personal sacrifices are taken in context for the long-term future anticipatory rewards.
I myself have been a perp in this regard. I can honestly say that I have been in those shoes, skipping large social interactions in exchange for taking care of my sick love or just resting and having a quiet night and she's done the same. We'd like to believe for love of the significant other is why our behavior changes, but its much more easily explained in terms of evolution. If I am with my significant other, I will exchange my short term pleasure because I know that in the future, those social interactions will a) still be there b) not be as rewarding as the possible punishment. Logically, anyone would skip a temporary desire for the knowledge that doing so will create a bond much stronger for the couple's future, aid in sexual advancement, etc. The reasons are limitless, but the endgame remains the same. Our behavior isn't characteristic of altruism, but rather our anticipated rewards.
With that said, the question arises of the necessity of said action and the benefits and costs. I raise these questions because I see it every day in the world, including my own life. When I acquired my new girlfriend, I disappeared off the social network. The proof is that last night was my first hosting a get together at my place since last year. Do I regret it? Absolutely not, because not only do I adore spending time with my love, the bonds created by our togetherness are much stronger than the bonds I could make with a majority of those other friends.
Statistically speaking, five years after we graduate from university, we're likely to be in contact with 3-5 friends from our college years. In 15 years, we will remain in contact with anywhere between 1-3 old college friends. With that said, I feel it is much more important to bide your time and cherish the time spent with the ones you love, because they will ultimately be the ones you promenade into the future with. To those who deem this to be a sheltered and anti-social mindset, it could not be further from the truth. We learn about our world through others as well as ourselves, but at the risk of sounding hypocritical, we, as social creatures must interact. However, we should not condemn those with significant others who choose the wiser long-term rewards instead of conforming to the groups desire to come together and cause a ruckus, for most gatherings in the Northern hemisphere aren't for social interaction, but rather to dull the senses and wits, a shame-faced task to behold or be a part of...said by a piece of the puzzle who has joined, hosted, condoned, and exasperated these problems in the past. But no more...
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